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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]When DH is traveling, I’d be annoyed if she asked me to drive 2 hours to drop off the kids. I work FT, deal with kid’s appointments/activities, and you want me to drop them off? No.[/quote]

This is the issue. To everyone defending the MIL asking because she’s saying “when is it convenient?” there is no good time to add a 2 + hour drive to your list of things to do when you’re taking care if the kids alone. It’s like asking someone “When is a convenient time for you to come over and clean my house?”

[b]Just because you ask politely doesn’t make it any less rude. [/b]

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Yes, it absolutely makes it not rude.  You are being idiotic if you admit she's being polite and still call it rude.  And OP is free to say, just as politely, "Unfortunately,  I can't really fit driving there into my schedule.  We can (meet halfway? invite MIL over? Wait until DH gets back? Have DC stay there for the weekend?)

There are a TON of possibilities other than complaining about MIL who is DOING NOTHING WRONG BY LOVING HER GRANDCHILDREN![/quote]

Calm down. -np[/quote]
You’re right. I don’t know why it’s so aggravating to me- I’m not even a grandparent. Maybe because I have sons and I fear one day being in that horrible MIL land where nothing you do is acceptable, even politely asking to see your grandkids. I don’t blame OP for not wanting to drive 2 hours, but I’m dumbfounded where even the polite ask is considered rude.[/quote]

Grandparent should ask when her son is home. If you knew a friend was maxed out and had too much on her plate, would you ask her to do you a favor and drive you multiple hours?[/quote]

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