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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m a SAHM with big law partner spouse and I’m shocked everyone is telling you to quit (would they say this to a man?!?)

You need more hired help, and your DH needs to handle arranging it. He should be in charge of 95% of household and childcare tasks, and the only thing on your plate most days should be time with the kids. Ideally that means hiring a nanny, getting prepped meals delivered, having house cleaner who does laundry, etc. And DH should be in charge of managing the hired help, and being back-up should something fall through. Then while he’s “in charge” of 95%, he doesn’t actually DO 95%.

This is how the men do it. It’s not just the outsourcing - it’s the not even thinking about the outsourcing.

Also, my DH is home for the 6-8 stretch with the kids most nights, but if he’s not, it’s no big deal. This was not the case when he was a mid-level (luckily kids were way younger). The more senior you get the easier it is to block off that time.

Stay in the game! I wish more women did, and I wish more women had husbands who do what wives do for men.[/quote]

they're telling her to quit because it's extremely rare to find a man who will actually do everything a woman would do as a SAHM. Not impossible, but rare.  also, they're telling her to quit because when the genders are switched, to a certain extent, this demonstrates how pointless jobs like Biglaw that consume your entire life are, for any gender.  Also, there are many options between quitting Biglaw and quitting work. many, many other ways to practice law that don't involve so much pressure.[/quote]

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