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[quote=Anonymous]I’m a breadwinner mom. Like your DH I have to work long hours to earn the money that affords us a nice lifestyle. Like your DH, I earn good money (though less than your DH), but not quit my job type wealth. I imagine your DH has no choice but to work, and you clearly have no interest in leading a frugal lifestyle to allow him to retire earlier. If my DH stayed home and demanded 24/7 help with two healthy children (plus weekly paid housecleaning), I would have no respect for him, and would wonder what exactly he was contributing to our household. I have 4 kids, and have experienced having a baby + toddler (plus older kids!). It is not always easy, but it does not require 24/7 help - you are not caring for someone with cancer. And your DH does not do “nothing” - he pays for every single thing you have. Talk to a single mom if you want to understand what it means to have a dad who does “nothing”. Some help is reasonable, but that level of help is not fair, given that your DH has to work to earn that money. If he was a billionaire who works for fun, sure, hire someone to wipe your butt. But you are not that rich. And LOL that people on DCUM are so out of touch they consider caring for two kids “being a martyr”. In most of the USA and world, not having to work outside the home and caring for only 2 kids while having a weekly housecleaner (plus a $750k lifestyle) would be considered living in the lap of luxury.[/quote]

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