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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Honestly, if you’re a SAHM who wants to hire 24/7 help for 3 months, I’d balk at that too.[/quote]

I don’t get this perspective. What are you working for if not to make your life better? The DH works all the time and does no household labor. Fine. What’s the point of this lady killing herself trying to do it all when a part time nanny and night nurse could significantly improve the family’s life? You can’t take the money with you.

OP, do you have an expensive car? Expensive jewelry? Tell him you want to sell it to pay for the night nurse/nanny. I think people who have family support don’t understand how difficult it is to take care of children on your own with zero breaks. It’s exhausting. [/quote]

I’m the pp you’re replying to. I think 24/7 help for 3 months is absurd, but I’m definitely not arguing that OP shouldn’t hire help. Surely you can see that there’s a lot of leeway between never, ever being alone with your children for the first 3 months of baby #2’s life versus hiring enough help that you get some rest and have help feeding/bathing the children and doing their laundry? I was a SAHM to preterm twins and I had a lot of help, but I wasn’t afraid of spending a single hour alone with my babies.[/quote]

You were really harsh in your first post and it implied that hiring help was a ridiculous idea. You backtracked ALOT from your original position. I actually think OP would be better off hiring a night nurse a few times a week for a month or 2, and hiring a part time nanny for the rest of the year. This would probably cost the same as 24/7 help for 3 months and be much more useful. She’s still going to need a break when the baby is 3 months old. [/quote]

I’d love to know how my two posts are inconsistent, because my position hasn’t changed. Three months of 24/7 help is ridiculous. 2-3 weeks of 24/7? Sure. A couple months with either a nanny or night nurse? Sure. But paying people so you can have the equivalent of two SAH parents? Barring medical complications for mom or baby or postpartum mental health issues, why would that be necessary? No matter how much money I had, I’d be questioning that.[/quote]

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