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Yes life is tedious.  The hot and heavy feelings that occur when you first meet fade significantly after 10, 20, 30 yrs.  You won’t ever be able to recreate those sparks with your spouse.  But you can create a solid family and a deep friendship built on shared experiences.  The problem is that this doesn’t excite people they way a first kiss filled with chemistry does.[/quote]

This is so true.  There is such a deep intimacy you get with someone when you share decades together.  Yes lust fades but I wouldn't trade this intimacy for anything.  If you cheat you lose that intimacy for good.  To share a life together is something quite meaningful.

To op, I've heard reasons such as the kids.  This seems to be common.

I know two women who tried to leave the marriage for the AP only to be told by the AP that they didn't want the baggage and it was only just for fun.  Both marriages ended up in divorce.  The men have moved on and are doing well.  The women are still single. Not that this is 100% true for everyone but perhaps people realise that an affair is just that, it's a bad time in their life but most of the marriage and life is ok and they don't want to blow up their whole lives and the stability they do have.[/quote]

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