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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My heart goes out to this family and little girl. All of us have taken our eyes off our children. This weekend we were at my son’s game with my daughter playing on the side of the field. I turned around and she was gone. Like nowhere in site. My first thought wasn’t to scream or call 911. I had a feeling of panic but my rational self said she was playing somewhere on the crowded sidelines. So I went looking all over and it was a good 15 min later when I found her sitting back where I had left. She saw a friend from her class and went to see her. They weren’t far but I didn’t see them. My point is, parents take their eyes off their kids and it is almost always okay. This time it wasn’t for this little one and my heart breaks for them.  [/quote]

The difference is that you were right there with your daughter and you did locate her within 15 minutes.  I agree that sort of thing does happen.  It happened to me once and the time I spent looking for my son was maybe 5 minutes - it felt like an eternity.  The panic was building when I suddenly saw him thank God.

Dulce may have been gone for 10 or 15 minutes before her mother even started to look for her and by the time she actually called the cops her daughter had been gone for an hour or more.

I'm not going to beat that 19 year old mother up.  She used some very poor judgement but she is not responsible for a stranger abducting her child.

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The difference is that PP's daughter was there to be located. I'm not saying the 19 year old was exercising the best possible judgment but it's not so terrible as to be neglect, either. Not like she dropped the kid off and went to smoke dope for a few hours and then came back. (Actually I think her leaving a 3 year old on the playground is worse.)

Anyone who says they have never taken their eyes off their children either is lying or has only one child and is neurotic to boot. I have a five year old who has walked away from me while I'm paying for his shoes at a counter. Am I supposed to have a 5 year old on a leash? Yeah, I punished him afterward, but the point is he walked away of his own volition while I was engaged in procuring things he needs for his daily life. Or if I take him and his 3 year old sister to the playground, and I'm pushing the 3 year old on the swing, it would be easy for him to slip off. Kids do stuff. I know I did as a kid. Heck, I used to cut chapel as a 13 year old (religious school, chapel 3 days a week) and go for a walk off campus, and slip back in when I knew chapel was ending. It never occurred to me that anything could happen to me from a safety perspective and if it had, no one would even have known I'd been off campus.

All you can do is try to train your kids not to do this and pray that nothing bad happens to them on the inevitable occasions when they disobey.[/quote]

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