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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I would have terminated immediately.  You are 43.  Who needs a 20 yr old at age 63!
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This makes no sense. So you have an ADULT 20 year old at 63. What if you had a 20yo ADULT at 43? Seriously, what is the difference? It's not like you're 63 with a toddler.

I had my lil one at 43, and I also have adult children. I love being a mom again. My pregnancy was smooth. I'm so glad it happened. OP, I want to encourage you-yes, you are in a tough spot, but there could be a bright side. Please don't feel pressured to do anything you do not want to.[/quote]

Of course it’s different to have a 20 year old at 63.  OP is going through a divorce which has probably put a dent in her savings, and she may be raising kids well into her senior years even though she currently has no means to support herself or them. She will still be supporting her kids at an age when she should be saving everything for retirement.  OTOH if you’re 43 with adult children, you have years to ramp up your retirement savings, and all the time and energy to focus on your work.  I think she should prioritize herself and her existing child. Even though she will get child support for both kids, it will still be expensive.  She will be a financially strapped single mom, and it’s doubtful that her boyfriend of 3 months will stick around to help her out in her old age.[/quote]

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