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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I believe in, the vows of "in sickness and in health". 
Ultimately it's your life and how you choose to deal with a dying spouse. But lets not fool ourself by calling it a gray area. Instead it's being a weasel.[/quote]

May it never happen to you.  I hope you find the strength of your convictions if it does.[/quote]

Ill spouse = Giving up all your dreams. $$$ problems. Probably no sex, no sleep, little affection.  If you had a promising career, say goodbye to it. Your kids will basically be reared by a single parent (hello, that's you). You will end up making all hard decisions by yourself. You will have nobody to rely on but yourself. Spouse, if illness is the long and incurable chronic kind, will end up resentful, jealous and self-centered.
I do not fault the previous poster for having found solace with someone else and I even think his wife probably understood. [/quote]

Yes, all of that.  And a spouses illness, even with good insurance, can leave you bankrupt.  People will often just ship the spouse off to hospice care and let them deal with it while "visiting" occasionally.  Not everyone will just take leave of their jobs for some indefinite period and care for their spouse at home nearly 24/7 as I did.  And yes, I had help come in now and then or I'd have never got through it.  I have no medical training but at that point you are their doctor, even giving shots.  And all the rest.  I don't wish it on any of you, even the most judgmental of you.  It was not my idea to see someone else for a few hours, now and then.  I never even hinted at such a thing.[/quote]

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