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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Team OP. She sounds exhausted, with a difficult baby and likely a no-help DH.

If she goes, she'll likely be stuck in some dingy dark guest house while everyone else goes out boating all day, and then have the fun of defending herself for being the "unfun" mom because she didn't agree to taking her napless 1 year old out on a boat for 6 hours.

So her choice will be, either be forced to take a miserable baby out on outings (where she inevitably will be the one trying to soothe and apologize for crying baby, and then deal with the cranky mess when they get home), or stay back and do nothing.

Someone once posted a link here to a story by Fay Weldon called the Weekend.  OP should read it and let us know if it resonates :)

Personally, I basically refused to travel under similar dynamics until my kid was 3. I'm not a mean mom, I'm not a boring mom, and I'm not a bad person.  I just knew that long trips would be extremely miserable.  Now that he's 7 I love to travel with him.  It was just a short period where I stuck closer to home.

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Oh sweetie, you are definitely the mean and boring mom who is also a martyr, apparently. You've made a ton of assumptions about OP revolving around the fact that her DH is a bad father when you have no idea what their situation is. If OP gets stuck in a dingy dark guest house while everyone else goes out and has fun then that is of her own volition. Millions of people manage to travel and ::gasp:: have fun when their children are under 3. You don't think the entire world before you stopped when everyone had toddlers, do you?
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I'm perfectly fine with you thinking I'm the mean and boring mom - you wouldn't know anything about my DH's uselessness, and it wouldn't be my place to tell you. People like you are exactly the reason why I avoided situations like this when I was in that super stressed-out period - because I knew I'd be dealing with your b*tchy judgement on top of everything else!  And sheesh, talk about thinking the world revolves around you, just because I don't want to schlep out to some vacation home ... [/quote]

And you don't know anything about OPs DH but we sure as heck can see you projected your own useless DH attributes to him[/quote]

Well, everyone else was fine with projecting their own stereotypes about martyr, uptight moms on OP, so it seemed appropriate.  [/quote]

Yes because of what she shared about herself. If the shoe fits. [/quote]

Well, thanks for confirming in my mind that OP should not go. Because I can guarantee her that if she's surrounded by people like you, you won't stop at berating her that she's self-centered not to want to go. No, she will be berated for not taking the 6 hour boat ride, for "insisting" that the baby get 2 naps, for trying to put the baby to bed at 7:30, for not wanting to stay out in the sun all day with the baby ... it will be all about how she's the mean mom who is too rigid or protective of the baby.  If only she were less uptight, then her baby would nap anywhere and could go to bed at 10pm!  So she may as well stay home.  [/quote]

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