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[quote=Anonymous]It is unkind not to let parents to stay with you. Not liking parent is not a good reason. A parent is a parent. They raised both of you, each of you have set of parents and unless there is no truly gigantic reason not to have them over then just sheer not liking is not one of them on my book. Every relationship needs opportunity to grow and when you are together you will have this opportunity. If you think you need to "put up" with the parent or parents, then put up with them. They had to put up with you for decades, and pay for your needs and brought  you up. Your wife has no idea how much it must hurt your mother and nether do you, that you are talking about this like it was a business arrangement. 
Loving or liking is optional, paying dues is a moral obligation. If the mom would be man, straightforward mean to your wife then this is an issue, separate. But if they just don't hug and leack eachother faces, that is not a problem.
You have to consider that your mom just like you one day probably think that nobody is good enough for her child.
You both just have to step down from the high horses and live a little and relate a little to other person's feelings and expectances that are grounded in work invested over the years. Your wife however wonderful probably did not do as much for you as your mom, and wives do come and go and you have only one set of parents. 
Do not disrespect your wife, but do not trash your parents to please her either. You need to find a solid ground and put your foot down. Fair is fair. You need to discuss with your wife where you coming from, where  your mom is coming from and you need to remind her gently what it takes to raise a child. Day in and day out, all the things that are invested in raising a child. It is NOT too much to ask to stay at your home.

You would break your mom's heart and it takes so much to mend such a break. Do not do that for anyone for such a frivolous reason.

If your parents will visit many times and at one point things will go hairy then you might consider some alternative arrangements but not from a get go when you have a  new house and your parents are so excited to celebrate it with you at your new place. On my book you depraving something they earned hard fair and square.

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