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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If you both make around the same and he doesn't want you to be a SAHM, I'm confused why you would ask him if he would stay home. He wants two incomes.  If you can afford not to work but just maybe not the same lifestyle and savings accumulation and he isn't willing to budge that is hard to get past.  How old are the kids?  Perhaps you can take a several month- year leave of absence? Or is working from home an option? There is a ton of benefit to kids having a parent home with them in those early years and I would make that case as strong as I could.  [b]If he still didn't agree and you still feel strongly about it, don't work.  If you can afford not to be can't force you to. [/b] There will be resentment if you work or don't work from one of you.  Him resenting you for staying home and nurturing your kids is pretty low- but at least your kids benefit [/quote]

Really?  So when he views her quitting work unilaterally as a betrayal and initiates divorce proceedings, she won't be forced to go back to work?  [/quote]

Depends how much alimony and child support he would be paying she may not have to go anytime soon.  He would be an idiot to divorce and would lose way more money than if he would come to terms for her being a SAHM at least temporarily 
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WRONG. If he were to leave her now, while employed, they would just split everything down the middle. She would be expected to maintain her income. He'd be way better off leaving her now. If my spouse were threatening divorce unless they could quit working, I would beat them to the judge to avoid paying support outside of splitting the expenses for the kids.[/quote]

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