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[b]This is your hill to die on[/b]. Seriously. If you don’t do something drastic they will always stomp all over your boundaries.

This is worth burning vacation days to get out of the house. Be SURE that you take the kids with you. Otherwise they’re getting rewarded with grandchildren time. Try to time it so the groceries are running out when you leave and your DH is in charge of them for the whole visit.

If they stomp all over your boundaries, you can only choose how you react, so for this trip my response to everything would be:

“I don’t know what DH planned, please check with him.” Big smile. Rinse and repeat.

This would be in response to questions about dinner, towels coffee, etc. Leaving with the kids makes the imposition uncomfortable for the in-laws. The “ask DH” approach makes it uncomfortable for DH....- even if you’re just killing time at Starbucks.

If the ILs want to play games, show them you can play too.[/quote]

[b]The Hill to Die On.  [/b]

1. [b]NO airport pick-ups and drop-offs. [/b] Those relatives have a 3 hour flight and do not rent a car. 
2. Outings.  People have had guests who expect driving rather than metro on any junkets.  Includes from Courthouse or walkable redline stops.  They go on metro and you point out the card sales machines.
3. Their gifts - tickets to a show or movie your family also enjoys.  
4. Food preferences - had a guest who took up 1 full shelf of our fridge.  Don't allow it.  
5. No laundry service.  Complaints about cleanliness of bathroom or floor?  Ahh.  There's the cleanser and sweeper.
6.  If they don't like certain food and OP's family enjoys it - that is the meal.  
7.  Never reach for the check. 
8. They don't ever get to control the TV remotes.
9.  Hopefully they bring laptop/ipad whatever.  If not - no access to your machines.  
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