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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Nothing. I make it a point to keep our finances separate to ensure that I don't contribute financially to DH's kids. Not that I don't like them or anything but they have two parents who work and pay for their upkeep. I might get flamed for saying this, but I see myself as DH"s wife and that is that. I am not their mother, I didn't create them so why should I pay for them? An older coworker I know is still working because she spent her retirement money on her second husband's son's college bill, and interestingly enough, her husband left her for a younger woman! So call me cynical but I would never want to be used or feel used that way. [/quote]

My ex’s new wife doesn’t contribute to her step-kids.  I wouldn’t mind so much about not spending on college, activities and health care, but she hasn’t so much as bought a bed for them to sleep on during visitation.

And new wife demands my ex spend a lot of money on her - engagement ring from Tiffany, expensive wedding and honeymoon, expensive vacations, and multiple trips abroad each year - often scheduled during the kids holidays.  Oh, and because they got married without considering how her income would impact financial aid, her resources affect the share of college that ex is supposed to pay for (which he doesn’t anyway.)

The whole thing is pretty sad.  I don’t expect her to pay, but I also don’t expect her to make life harder for my kids, and I expect her to treat my kids as well as any stranger in her home.  Kids don’t know the financial details but new wife’s attitude bleeds out in other ways. [/quote]

Your ex should be the one expected to provide a place to sleep for your children when they come to visit him. Also, how do you know what your ex's wife is "demanding" of him financially?[/quote]

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