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I actually fond that doing pick up and drop off WAS the biggest impediment to my career.  Never being able to make a morning meeting and always having to be able to go by 5:30 made it impossible for me to pick up certain things that interested me at work, and frankly it made it so that I just wasn’t as dedicated as some other people, even if I wished to be. 
If your husband is getting baby packed and doing drop off every morning AND taking on every sick day and phone call from daycare during the workday AND your office has a culture that a lot of people leave by 4:30 for daycare pickup, then I think you are golden.

Really, in terms of work performance, it doesn’t matter who plans the birthday parties or puts on lotion at night.  [/quote]

NP, and I find this really interesting because it shows how job- and industry-specific these dynamics are.  In my work environment, we maintain pretty minimal core hours (9-3) because people have different schedules, long commutes, and off-site work.  So I can count on less than one hand the number of times it would have benefitted me to be in a meeting before 9am and on one hand the number of times I wished I could stay after 4:30.  Being able to log back on and get some serious work done in the evenings is crucial for me.  That's when my boss catches up on emails from the day, and everyone else is informally reporting around about what they've been working on, so if I'm not on email in the evening, I can't contribute to any of those conversations.  So for me, I need to know that my spouse can handle bedtime and post-bedtime antics at least a few nights of the week, as well as any of that other stuff that pops up like needing to run to Target for a science fair poster board or needing to go to CVS for teacher appreciation gift cards.  [/quote]

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