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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The previous list is for stay at home parents, not the default parent between dual working spouses.  Also, some parents may split morning & evening routine, not defaulting to one parent.

*I have three kids, and both my spouse and I have always held full time jobs.  I was the default parent from 2002-2013.  My husband has been the default parent for the past five years.

[b]Morning parent[/b]
--basic daily morning hygiene 
--breakfast & clean up
--backpack and any special items for school
--school/daycare drop off

[b]Default parent during working hours[/b]
--cover sick days 
--cover snow days (and other weird weather closings) 
--cover random unexpected daycare closings like for a national day of mourning (hello Wednesday!) or a live action shooter drill 
--any school/daycare calls or concerns
--take kid(s) to the dentist 
--take kid(s) to doctor 
--parent teacher conferences if both parents cannot attend

[b]Evening parent[/b]
--school/daycare pickup
--dinner & clean up
--homework/backpack cleanout
--evening hygiene (bath, teeth clip fingernails, put lotion on kid(s)

[b]Weekend items that either parent or both parents handle[/b]
--plan the kid(s) birthday parties (kids do not need large parties each year.  Most years are family dinner, gifts and a cake.)
--coordinate attendance at other kids' birthday parties (buy a box of cards off of Amazon, buy cheap giftcards or keep a few books on hand for parties)
--organize play dates (when life is super busy scratch this altogether)
--sign up for and take kid(s) to extracurricular [i](though make it easier by having all young kids to do the same activity whether than be swimming, soccer, etc./limit to one activity per kid)[/i]
--call the health insurance to argue about a claim (my husband has always handled this, even when I was the default parent)
--split chores among all family members.  Even toddlers have minor responsibilities.

**Each spouse manages their own parents.  Neither my in-laws nor my parents require any special hand holding, and when my kids were little, they were even more understanding.  They definitely [u]do not[/u] play into any Monday-Friday daily routine.[/quote]

Okay, except the previous list was definitely for parents with full time jobs--hence all the items about daycare closures.  [/quote]

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