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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I was adopted at birth. My parents set up my adoption with my birth parents before I was adopted and were actually at the hospital when I was born. 
My parents are my parents. No if, ands, or buts. My birth parents gave me an amazing gift by choosing adoption, but they're not my Mom and Dad. But that's just my feelings.

What I always say when I share my story is that this is MY experience and that every adoptee has a different one. Someone could have the same exact circumstances as me but feel completely different about them. And that's fine. Life is complicated.

Long story short: I don't resent being adopted. My DH and I plan to adopt in addition to attempting to have kids naturally. My sister (my parents biological child) also plans on adopting. That probably means the most to me because it shows how much she values me being part of our family. [/quote]

But why would you or your sister adopt an infant if you can have your own children? It's not as though there are a bunch of motherless babies in the US who need someone to swoop in an rescue them. 
It just doesn't make sense. It reminds me of my coworker who already had 2 girls was pregnant again and wanted a boy. "But it's ok if this is another girl, we'll just adopt a boy next time." When I asked more details about her plan, she said they'd just go to an adoption agency and pick out a birth mom who was pregnant with a boy. As though all the unmarred pregnant women are on a list somewhere and the adoptive parents get to shop for what they want.

Where You're needed is in foster care and foster/adopt. That's where kids are actually waiting for good homes.

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