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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. I would have had an abortion but my daughter said she cannot do that - need to respect her choice even if it is a different one that I’d have made.[/quote]

Not to be hard hearted, but I would be clear with her about the degree to which you’re willing to suppport her financially and provide childcare now while it’s still early. Make sure your expectations are honest and see if they are aligned.  Our college-student sitter got pregnant (and told us, she was planning to continue the pregnancy.) Her expectation was that her mother would provide full-time childcare since she had retired. Her mom was much less up for it than she expected and she ended up terminating—kind of late, IMO. Rough situation, but last I heard she was OK. Anyway, there is time to really make a plan and think about what it will look like. [/quote]

[b]+1. How does your DD see this working? Her staying in college and you renting an apartment for her, and sending her a lot more money so she can raise the child can pay for childcare? Leaving the baby with you and going back to college unencumbered?  Moving home and having you do the child care while she finishes at GMU or similar?  Fact is, a kid finishing college would likely have to spend more per hour for childcare than she would make working? And the money to raise the kid has to come from somewhere.  If she continues with college, who is babysitting?  Late teens/ early 20s are often not great at seeing long term consequences.l

Frankly, the idea of returning to college and just not dealing until next semester makes it sound like the reality of becoming a parent has not hit her.   She needs to not realize this is real and life changing at 30 weeks. And you need to make sure she isn’t assuming that you will bear. The financial burden or Rae the child— unless you can and want to.

She may not want to have this discussion until January,  but she needs to have it with you now. [/b][/quote]

Yup, all of this. She needs a plan now. If it includes starting a life with a child, she needs to figure out specific details and you, or a counselor, need to help her understand the realities of those details (e.g., childcare options are limited and really expensive).[/quote]

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