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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You’re doing everything you can do to work extra and not be home through outside social activities, but wonder why she won’t have sex with you?

THIS is actually classic DCUM. you’ve basically exited your marriage emotially, and it sounds physically, but you resent her for exiting it sexually. [/quote]

This.  While there is likely fault on both sides, it's straight-up hypocrisy to complain that your wife won't sleep with you, when you have made it clear that you don't like her, don't like spending time with her, and don't really want to be with her. [/quote]

Him not liking her, don't like spending time with her, and not wanting to be with her is the [i]symptom [/i]of her not sleeping with him, not the [i]cause [/i]of it.

If she denies him sex, then naturally and inevitably his desire to give her his time and attention will diminish - eventually to nothing.[/quote]

Well, I guess we don't know this, but OP can settle it for us pretty easily. OP - which happened first? Did your wife stop wanting to have sex with you first or did you start making yourself absent from the house more often first? [/quote]

OP here. Not that it really matters who's to blame (and blame is usually the reason couples don't/can't solve problems...)... but to answer your question... the later came first. In fact, I still spend many more hours in the home and with family as compared with most people I know...[/quote]

OP, you need to grow up. Marriage is not a contractual obligation for sex 3-5x a week. It's a commitment to form a family, to love, honor, and cherish in sickness and in health. You have young kids, it's pretty normal for a marital sex life to wane during those years due to stress, exhaustion, hormone changes. How a couple reacts to those stressors on a relationship are the indicator of long term success. If you became angry and resentful and distant from your wife, like she was trying to punish you by withholding sex, rather than trying to regain non-sexual intimacy and hope that the physical intimacy would return, then you have made your own bed.  For women, sex is often more about the emotional than the physical. If you don't have an emotional connection you won't have a physical connection. If you're not interested in reconnecting on any level, then be a man and tell her. If you're done, you're done, and you owe it to both of you to admit that rather than live in some limbo because it's more convenient. If you're not done, then you need to make some serious changes in order to turn it around. But after what you said, it's entirely possible that it's too late. [/quote]

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