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[quote=Anonymous]OP, perhaps your brother and SIL did not handle their pain and grief in the best way - they didn't share with the family and pulled a disappearing act. However, I don't think you are coming from a place of compassion here. I wish you wouldn't take this as a personal affront against you and your kids, but rather their way of coping. And I hope that you can find a way to move forward and to help them engage their child in your family.

People who haven't dealt with infertility can't possibly understand how it feels. How hard it can be to attend kid-related events while knowing that's something that may never happen for you. Some people handle this better than others. I didn't withdraw when going through my treatments - I attended the baby showers and the birthday parties even though some days it was the last thing I wanted to do. However - while I kept it to myself, I had all sorts of dark thoughts and felt terrible resentment of my family and friends for conceiving easily and having healthy children, even though rationally I knew it was very unfair of me.  Being pumped full of hormones certainly didn't help my emotional state. And neither did the inevitable "so why aren't you guys having babies, it's your turn" comments.[/quote]

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