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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]PSA for everyone here, because it seems to have hit too close to home for some of you: infertility does not give you a pass to be an asshole and never have to answer for it. Social rules (and consequences) still apply. [/quote]

Counter PSA: someone being childless, or child free,does not give you the right to comment on their lack of children, their lifestyle, or the implications of their fertility (like OP has Done, blaming SILs infertility for the damaged relationships). The fact that your uterus has held a baby does not give YOU lisence to be an asshat to those whose haven’t.

Also, adopted children ARE the adoptive family’s children.

Oh, and spoken as a parent, no one is required to love your children, other than you, just because YOU think they are the second coming. It is up to you to cultivate the relationships that will last them a lifetime. [/quote]

What? The brother and sil TOLD OP that's why they've been avoiding them...

Everyone is jumping all over OP and assigning deep meaning to wording that wa obviously chosen quickly and secondarily, for the purpose of conveying the facts to us. Obviously OP would not tell her brother "those aren't your own kids"; she's (presumably) not an idiot. She just finished telling us that they went through years and years of fertility treatments and failed IVFs, and is just saying she's sorry that none of those worked.

I'm not sure what you're on about in the third paragraph, but I certainly don't think my children are the second coming lol. But I love the HECK out of my siblings' and DH's siblings kids - and this is the case for most close, normal families. If you think it's not weird that they used to see each other / talk very regularly and then they suddenly dropped off the face off he earth and wouldn't even meet OP's children...I don't know what to tell you [/quote]

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