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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]All the people criticizing the brother and SIL--they are not writing in for advice.  It doesn't actually matter whether their withdrawal was justified.  OP is writing in, and the advice has to be to her.  So, yes, she can feel self-righteous or nurse her hurt and offense, but what good will that do her?  She now knows that her brother and his wife struggled with infertility for years.  She can choose to have compassion for them, forgive them for the slight, and move forward, or she can choose to make it all about her and be right but isolated and angry.  Personally, I'd choose the former.  I wouldn't feel the need to punish my brother, or withhold affection from my niece or nephew.  You don't have to impose consequences on them if you don't want to, and I wouldn't want to.  Because I'd rather have my family be close than be right.  [/quote]

This view is too simple though. There is a LOT of hurt there - some people can't just pretend and suddenly act like everything is normal and fine with such a crazy background. If the brother/SIL were coming to them with a heartfelt apology and wanting to talk it out that's one thing...[/quote]

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