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It is a dream job for little boys, not men who have little children. He needs to get a promotion into position with normal hours. This is what parents do.[/quote]

Sure if he was a she you would be all over the OP for crushing her dreams. The privilege of being a woman is taking a dream job while the man has to take a job that brings in the money. When the man complains about being the money cow everyone tells him to shut up. OP needs to man up and be an adult. [/quote]

It would be interesting to see how advice differed if the genders were reversed.  However, I doubt people would be telling OP to suck it up.  I think more would be saying to leave and you could find someone that would be a better spouse.  It’s rare, but I won’t say never that a guy is the big earner AND the default parent while he is married and wife is barely there pursuing her low paying dream job.  
We still find it acceptable for a male to ignore his children for a job while a female is not held to that same standard of parenting. The big earner male situations are typically the spouse asking if earning a big paycheck is a substitute for spending time with family and having some parenting responsibilities.  Usually the answer if you want to stay married, hard to change someone so the answer is to outsource everything possible and weigh the pro/cons of working and the stress it adds to do everything.  For OP, that doesn’t work because she is both the high earner and default parent.  And the whole unilateral decision of OP’s husband to take the job was BS.  I’ve called that out no matter what gender.[/quote]

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