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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Haven't read all 7 pgs -- but haven't people been saying this for generations? Don't know how our kids will ever get married, buy a house, have kids bc it's sooooo expensive now. And yet every generation manages.[/quote]

And yet the birth rate has dropped significantly.[/quote]

And how do you know that's bc of expenses rather than just lesser interest in having babies?[/quote]

My friends and I [b]LOVE [/b]babies..but how can we pay student loans, $2K/mo RENT , $2K daycare  with men who are mamma's boys and not willing to grow up? 
Young women are expected to make equal financial contributions , be excited to work F/T and then come home and do 95% of childcare and housework with little/no help from anyone, and go to the gym or run marathons with DH, and then be ready for sex at a moment's notice.

It's NOT the lack of interest in having babies, its the LACK OF RESOURCES (financial, physical, emotional, etc) that are affecting the birthrate.

Husband dies is a worry buy life insurance and you get SS kids under 18.

In a divorce SAHM to a rich husband with no pre-Nup and kids becomes a rich women while husband ends up broke.

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NP.. I will add....  Women these days have higher expectations of life than even 30 years ago. We want choices, and we don't want to be the ones having to do most of the work at home plus a FT job.  Some women want a FT job even if they have kids, and trying to do that with more than one or two kids and not much help in the home front is too much work. Why would a women purposefully put themselves in that kind of position.

Plus I think it's important for women to be able to support themselves if something should happen to the husband (be it divorce or death).  Can't do that if you quit your job early in your career to be a sahm.  You need to put in several years of work to get on a career trajectory that will allow you to step back in at a level enough to get decent pay. Hard to do that if you leave a career in your 20's.

30/50  years ago there weren't as many choices for women as there are now.  I would encourage my DD to wait for marriage and kids, not for money necessarily, but just to establish her own identity and career.[/quote][/quote]

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