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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I get that it's her turn to reetablish her career. But missing dinner 90% of the time with her family is not okay. That makes me sad for the kids. I think she is working too much if that is the case. [/quote]

Was it sad for the kids when DH was traveling and not even there for multiple days in a row?

Sexist double-standard employed at just the time when DW is re-establishing career.

OP, I would be SOOOOOOO disappointed if I had spent 7 years as a complete SAHM to support you in a career thus enabling you to make 500K a year and you came to me when I finally was able to go back to work and told me I was working to much.  Honestly, it would be a marriage ending moment for me, because it would say my career and sense of self-worth are truly not important.

If you are concerned that your wife is wiped and comes home and vegetates, ask HER what would help HER.  Coming home early may not be an option - some offices require face time to move up.  some people have bosses who walk the halls and see who is there at 7pm and take mental note.   Life was all about you for 7 years.  IF you earn 500K, you can afford whatever supports she needs.  But, it's not about what you need but what she needs.  Is she happy vegging on the couch?  Is she OK with not eating with the kids?  Maybe you can do breakfast together instead of dinner.  Stop trying to fit her in the traditional expecatations box when she already SAHMed for 7 years. She deserves a career too and not everyone gets to have it all at the same time. (You didn't clearly.)[/quote]

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