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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]People change. Physically and mentally.  I used to have a strong sex drive.  Kids changed me.  Not just from a mental perspective.  Physically/hormonally/etc.  I don't respond to sex the same way anymore. My body does not respond the same way. What used to work.. doesn't anymore.  What used to take minutes... can take hours now. What used to feel good... does not anymore. And I hate when people say things like "you are doing it wrong" or "you just need to spice things up" or "go away alone together.." etc. As if I haven't tried any number of things to fix the situation myself. Its embarrassing to have this issue and it often feels like something is wrong.. like I am broken.

I am saying all this because I can empathize with your wife. You are not wrong for wanting more... but It just might not be as easy as asking for more physical intimacy.  And it might not be that easy for her to discuss/fix/change.

It sounds like your relationship has a lot of good components.  And it sounds like it would be worth trying to keep/save.  Just try to understand the other perspective...[/quote]

I sympathize with you... but does that mean your DH gets no sexual activity for the rest of his life? I'm genuinely asking. [/quote]
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Have you been to the doctor? If not, why not? You would try to fix your arm if it was broken- why would you be willing to give up something you used to enjoy and something that is an important piece of your relationship? Without looking into and trying to improve this situation you really aren't being a good partner nor are you being good to yourself, as much as I do sympathize with you. It may be embarrassing to talk about but I hope you'll get past that and seek some help.[/quote]

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