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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm going out on a limb here, OP.  I don't think you and your wife are at all well suited and maybe (since it sounds like you're both young enough to start over and you don't have kids) this should be a red flag for you.

This isn't about whether (as some have suggested) she is willing to put you before her father.  This is about whether she is willing to look out for herself at all.  It sounds like she's not, and your frustration about her inability to assert herself is not going to be limited to just this one arena.  If you do end up having kids with her, you're going to see this kind of poor boundary setting replay itself with your kids.  She will devote herself entirely to them (in addition to her work and whatever else) and get frustrated with you when you want time for just the two of you.

I admit to having a very low tolerance for doormat type behavior, but it sounds like you don't have much stomach for it either.  I think this is a deal breaker.[/quote]

OP here. Before her parents moved from NYC she was extremely devoted, attentive, and present with me. She is also normally balanced when it comes to work. It's just with her dad.[/quote]

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