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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm going to throw sand in the cake batter and say that I don't think parenting is the most important job in the world.  Neither does OP.  That is what leads to the sense of a lack of fulfillment.  Some years ago Caitlin Flanagan wrote an excellent piece about it in The Atlantic.  As the mother of 3 daughters I actually find the "parenting is all" idea dangerous.  We are telling girls and women to always choose someone else first.  [b]This world loses so much because women devote it to their children instead of society at large.[/b][/quote]

I'm wondering what on earth could be more important than devoting time to one's own children.  What a strange outlook on life.[/quote]

Strange Outlook PP here.  The best part is that it is nearly impossible to imagine a man saying this with a straight face and living out the conviction: i.e. doing all he could to maximize time caring for his children.  A big part of my problem with the "parenting is all" ethos is that it seems only to apply to women.  No educated and healthy man is ever expected to choose childcare and housework over a career outside the home.  That is why the few who do are lionized.[/quote]

Hmm.  I'm an educated and healthy woman and never once felt I was "expected to choose childcare and housework over a career outside the home."  No one expected me to do this - I simply *wanted* to because it was the best decision for our family.  I find it odd that you (and other PPs) still, in 2018, think that women are pressured into SAH simply because they're women.  Many women (and men) don't have a choice in the matter - they need to work.  But for those of us who are fortunate to have options, SAH is very much that - a choice.  And it's an extremely important decision, one which I've never taken lightly.

FTR, I never lionize men who choose to SAH.  I think it's great that any family is able to have a SAH parent, regardless of gender.  And I'm grateful every single day that in our family, I'm able to be that parent.[/quote]

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