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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here again.

I’m really just so annoyed. All I waned was a quiet relaxing vacation away from everyone. I have a stack of books I planned on reading. Ugh.

And yes, this is Speing Break. We can’t change our plans now, we would lose too much money.

And yes, it’s a small resort (maybe 100 suites?) I’m just picturing not being able to even go to the pool without running into them.

I have no idea how to even tell her we won’t be hanging out 24/7 and sharing a table for every meal.

And yes, she told me that it will be great because our kids can play and we can socialize. Ugh! How can I get out of this, DCUM! What can I tactfully say?[/quote]

OP, I think that you have to prioritize what you NEED, for yourself and for your family, over your very pushy friend's feelings.  Have enough respect and honor for yourself.  You are spending a lot of money on this vacation and this time is precious.

I would send her an email:
Rudie, I've been thinking about the news you shared that you will be taking your Spring Break at the same resort as our family.  I didn't know what to say when you told me because the news was a surprise.  Pete and I have been looking forward to this week as a getaway for spending time with just our family.  And more than anything, I have been looking forward to quiet time by myself at the pool, reading a stack of books while the kids swim.  I need this time to recharge and relax by myself.  I hope you will not be disappointed, but I will look forward to socializing with you when we get back to our normal lives here in Virginia.  While in Florida, i really need time to myself and with my family.  If the kids end up playing together at the pool that's fine, but I really need time to myself.  Please know I value your friendship very much.  Vacations and family downtime are rare and treasured, and we did not plan for this to be a trip to socialize with another family and friends.  I hope you will have a great time with your family and look forward to comparing notes when we return!

She may feel hurt, but it is not your fault.  Your needs matter more than her feelings.  You are not acting tacky or hurtful by asserting your very valid needs.[/quote]

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