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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. I feel the need to explain that marriage is not something I am interested in.  BF has asked twice over the years Ive known him.  I have my own personal reasons for not marrying again. This whole turn of "3 years no ring, get a clue sister" is bizarre to me in 2018.[/quote]

Not to pile on you too much but maybe this is part of the reason he snapped when you told him the arrangement makes you uncomfortable. You don't want the commitment/obligations of marriage yet you call him out for an arrangement that you would only have a say in if you were married and combined finances. He can't win either way.[/quote]

Exactly. [/quote]

Agree.  Sounds like you guys aren't on the same page as to the meaning (or lack of meaning) of being married.  You seem to think it's not necessary to be married before you have a say in his finances.  He seems to think otherwise.

Also, not for nothing, but if he thinks marriage is important and you don't want to get married, he could be interpreting that as a lack of commitment on your part.  In that case, he may be extra upset that someone who isn't committing to him long term wants to rock the boat with the mother of his children.  You want him to stop using a system that works for them because it makes you uncomfortable but you could bail tomorrow.  Then he'd be left with an upset mother of his children while you're long gone. [/quote]

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