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We don't have big parties. As a matter of fact, my kids can't  invite more than how many can fit in my minivan. I say no gifts because my UMC kids don't need more gifts. I want them to anticipate the joy of celebrating with friends, not obsessing about what gifts they will be getting. So far it has worked.  My younger son is a December birthday and this year we requested a gift donation for us to bring to toys for tots. My son absolutely loved donating "his presents". This to me is more in line with teaching my kids to havr a generous spirit.[/quote]

Or, you know, your kids could anticipate both a fun party and fun presents from their friends.  You're not giving your kids much credit.[/quote]

Parents try so hard to think they are being so great and thoughtful. If you don’t want your kid to have gifts, don’t have a birthday party then. Stop the confusion to your kid, their friends, their parents. Wait until a month after his birthday and just have a party. If your kid is fine with no presents, I am sure he is fine with no singing happy birthday. Because what else is the difference? [/quote]

Wow, birthdays are really tied up in getting stuff for you, aren't they?  Maybe our family just likes to bring friends together for a fun time.  Maybe for my kids, the party *is* the present.  I guarantee that at the end of the day, getting a pile of generic gifts is not adding to my child's birthday enjoyment.[/quote]

I totally agree with this last PP. When adults go out to celebrate someone's birthday we don't typically bring gifts. There are many celebratory occasions when people get together without bringing gifts. The party itself is a gift to the kid. [/quote]

When I go out with friends for birthdays, we usually bring a gift or at the very least, a bottle of wine. We usually buy a drink for them and we all chip in and pay for their meal. Heck, even the restaurant gives you a present. Free dessert.

In your world does the birthday girl invite everyone, say no gifts, pay for the whole dinner, and hand out bags of goodies to all her friends that came to the restaurant? [/quote]

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