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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I can relate with OP's frustration. 
I really like my in-laws, but they live half a continent away, and there is definitely an expectation that we will visit regularly, and we will pay.
We've already made it clear that we aren't coming next year, and while I think they are a bit miffed, they are not (yet) giving us a lot of static about it.
[b]For those that say "adults should pay" I say it's not quite that simple.[/b]
While my husband and I both have successful, stable careers, we don't have a particularly high household income. [b]Meanwhile we have to save for college, pay mortgage, and overall $$ living in expensive DC area. [/b]Meanwhile, in-laws are very comfortably retired, continue to live in their huge house (but don't host--everyone is expected to chip in for a lake house rental, and they also keep track of all food purchase and split the costs) and they are excitedly talking about their springtime river cruise through Europe.
Basically, these people could absolutely cover the cost, but they choose not to do so. 
I went this year because SIL had a new baby, but I'm making it clear that if in laws want to prioritize their money spending away from family visits, then I think I want to do the same!
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Grow up!
It is is that simple.
Most adults are doing the same thing. You can either pay to visit more often or make it clear that frequent visits are not in your budget. Stop counting other people's money. 
If your in-laws are retired and enjoying that time of their lives, let them. That is why you are saving for retirement isn't it, so you can do what the f*** you want, right?
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You seem to lack basic reading comprehension. Because the PP wasn't saying any of those things or "counting their money", whatever that means. She stated, and I agree, if they are going to prioritize their own money for themselves (which is FINE, as it is also fine for them to enjoy their retirement) then they have absolutely no right to make demands as to how others spend their money.  That is correct.  So PP, as indicated, has said she won't.

It's interesting though, and I've seen this with other wealthy relatives, those who obtain wealth seem to forget what it's like to not have it when they make demands. They also, in many but not all cases, are the ones to be least generous and nitpick the bills. That sounds like the PPs relatives, unfortunately, on both counts.  [/quote]
You are the one with reading comprehension problems , OP said her relatives did not give them static for not visiting .
Plus, you are counting other folks' money. Because someone likes you to visit, does not mean they have to pay.
My in- laws did not bust their asses to raise kids, retire and then foot my travel bills.
GROW
UP!!!
#getabetterjob
#powerball
#moocher[/quote]

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