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[quote=Anonymous]OP - apologies if you said this already, but are you a SAHM?  I was assuming that you were....but are your friends/party invitees also families with a SAHP?  If not, I’m betting that’s a big part of it, in addition to those families having more than one kid.  I’m not a parent (yet), but I’ve noticed that many of my WAH friends kind of dropped out of sight when their kiddos were real little, but they usually seem to resurface later on.  In most cases, they’ll still come over for dinner - if someone else organizes - but they just don’t have the energy to take the initiative right now.

( Heck - I don’t have any kids and I don’t have the energy to throw multiple large parties a year.  Even when I had a larger house that had better flow, I was only good for 1-2 parties a year, and those were all semi-potluck.)

It’s not a big deal to me to do the heavy lifting for my friendships w parents of young kids, because those friends are only a partial fraction of my social group and I’m getting enough reciprocity elsewhere that i don’t mind being the giver/organizer, but I can see how it would be difficult if I was starting from scratch socially and  all of my friendships were trending this way.  So, if this is the case, I think that I would echo someone else’s advice and recommend trying to broaden your social search beyond moms with kids your age. Look for some activities such as book club, sports team, or an exercise class where you might meet a wider range of life stages. [/quote]

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