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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]let me translate OPs post....

"She thought they would snap at teach other and then be civil" means[u] she thought that she should instigate an argument in public wit the kids and he would be trapped into the situation because they were in public[/u]. He chose to leave a situation which was manipulative. Good for him.[/quote]

What the F? Why is everyone blaming OP for instigating and intending to berate her DH w/ no consequences? The misogyny on here is unbelievable.  It's just as likely her DH over-reacted or was an ass. As he acted like an ass by leaving, I'm inclined toward that conclusion.[/quote]

Are you obtuse? She knows a certain subject pushes his buttons. He plans a nice family outing and they are on their way. She decides it time to do that cool thing my parents did and argue in front of the kids. How to start it? Hmmm. I know, I'll bring up that topic that always triggers him. Oops. Didn't think that thru, we never resolve that one, do we.

Everyone blaming the OP is due to the fact that it's her fault. Misogyny is not in play. He was trying to have a nice day with his family and she picks then to raise this, knowing the result? If I was him, I'd be pissed at her for sabotaging the whole thing. I think counseling is needed but not the couples variety. Just some good old fashion psychoanalysis. While she's at it pp, why not ask her for a recommendation. Seems like your head could use some shrinking too.[/quote]

I'm the pp with the divorced parents that just laid a lot of blame at ops feet. You are projecting and being a little crazy. We have no evidence that the dh is an angel and when regular snappy fighting like this occurs neither party is innocent

You also made a lot of crazy assumption like he planned the outing and he didn't start it and she did it intentionally.

My guess is that you think your mom is worse than your dad. But posts like yours will make OP take people like us (kids damaged by parental bitterness and anger) less seriously. [/quote]

So you scold me for making "crazy assumptions" and then you go and make some crazy assumptions about my parents?[/quote]

I said it was a guess. Mostly because you seem intent on painting the dh as an amazing totally innocent hard working guy put upon by this irra tional cruel where.

Since there is little objective evidence for that interpretation I'm guessing it's because you have some bias/personal experience towards that scenario.

But it's a guess, I could be wrong. A level of uncertainty that did not exist in your post[/quote]

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