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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Only on DCUM will someone criticize a man for being level headed and walking away during a fight that the OP was trying to escalate.  Most of understand why he walked away and I applaud him for it.

If he stayed and snapped and called OP a choice name or two, some of you same folks would be coming after him for that.

OP wanted to fight and she wanted to fight on her own terms. But I would NEVER fault anyone from removing themselves from a situation where they are about to lose control.  People can phrase it as unfair to the OP or whatever.  The man went back home because he did not want to snap at each other the whole "family outing."  And if this family date was so important to the OP, why would she potentially ruin it by insisting they fight right then and there.  Mature people table things when no resolution is imminent. [/quote]

What about him leaving her with their two kids? Isn't that sexist? He walked away, not just from her, but from the kids' at that point. That part is too much. Whom ever started the fight in the restaurant should not have done so. Was it you OP who started the fight?  That was wrong of you. You don't start fights in public places, right in front of your kids and strangers. And your DH was wrong to leave, he should have asked you to drop it. If he did ask you and you still pursued the arguments, he should he left with the kids. Him leaving without the kids, and leaving you with the kids is wrong. If he did tell you that he will leave if you persist and you still persisted... well, both sides were wrong. [b]But, OP, who started the fight? You or him?[/b][/quote]

This laser focus on why the fight began instead of how both parties contributed to the escalation and continue to not resolve the core issue is not productive. [/quote]

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