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Interesting, and I have heard this from a few parents. What I have not heard is whether they believe it is because of something unique to NCS, the private school world, just being a young girl, etc. and whether they think this issue could be resolved by changing schools or could have been avoided altogether by choosing another private school (or even public). Perhaps there is no answer because it would all be speculative anyway.  [/quote]

I don't have any particular insight into NCS, but having been a middle school teacher at a grades 6 - 12 independent school, I'll say that what I see described is really a mix of pretty normal with a school that is perhaps not doing as much as it could be to proactively manage the situation.  Middle school girls can be mean, and I think it often peaks around eighth grade.  Middle school girls can also be really lovely.  Individual grade cohorts also develop their own personalities, and I think every school has a really awful one that they struggle to manage now and again, but they also have really wonderful ones sometimes, too.  Social media amplifies all this - those who are kind, nice, and positive use it for that, but those who are experimenting with mean girl power can really use it to amplify the reach and impact of awful behavior, often expanding the circle of victims beyond what they would have without it.  (Personally I think middle schoolers would be better off without social media and instant communication, but there's no putting the genie back in the bottle).  So changing school might help, but it's just so hard to know.  Because I'll also say that in my experience almost every girl in middle school feels like she doesn't fit and is pretending everything is fine - there are very few who come through it without struggling.  It's a great, hard, wonderful, tumultuous age.  Good luck to the parents who are helping their daughters navigate it - it's such a line to talk between supporting and intervening enough without helicoptering.  And as someone else noted, remember that nearly all eventually find their place to thrive, though it may take a bit longer for some.[/quote]

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