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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Sort of. We dated for a long time. I was ready to be married, and honestly, I did love him as a person. He's a great person. But I never had the PASSION for him.  And that is what is still missing. I love sex, but I could take it or leave it with him.

And I was quite happy with him for a long time. But when the shit hit the fan -- and it did of course -- the weaknesses in our relationship came out. Like the lack of intimacy (I don't mean sex, I mean emotional intimacy). And there is absolutely nothing wrong with this person. He's a good husband. A good father. A good citizen. All that. But that chemistry? not there.

So, sure. It's fine. It's passable. Hindsight is 20-20.[/quote]

PP, it's interesting that you're projecting what you perceived as a deficiency of your marriage as a deficiency in your spouse rather than a deficiency in yourself.  Many women with perfectly good husbands and marriage are exactly the same.   There's nothing wrong with your husband.  There's something wrong with you--you've never fully committed yourself emotionally to the marriage or to your husband.  Once you decide to do that, things will get much better.  Of course, you do have to grow up first.[/quote]

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