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[quote=Anonymous]OP, based on your list in your post above at 10:12 -- can you step back from what seems to be your own expectation the she should want to play the role of mother of the bride and instead try to see that it's actually positive that she is cutting herself out of that role?

You say that she insists your stepmom play mother of the bride. You seem to want your mom to embrace that job despite her horrible behavior. I hope you can let go of that expectation and be glad that rather than your having to say, "You've behaved so badly that I'm asking you not attend the shower/party/brunch" etc., she is absenting herself. Less stress for you, in the end, if she is just minimally present. It hurts for you, surely, but at least if she is not present she cannot bring her resentment of your dad, or her demands and attention-seeking, into every single aspect of the celebration.

Regarding the ceremony--don't go just by what she told your sister. Too easy for mom to deny it and throw a tantrum on the day when she discovers you have not arranged for her to be escorted like a VIP. Get it clear with your mom in advance so there is no day-of-the-wedding drama. Same goes for the wedding reception/brunch; tell her there is a very strict limit on numbers and a deadline and that if she is serious about not attending, you must take her at her word and will let the restaurant or caterer know.

If you have a close and understanding relative who knows your mom is being a serious drama queen, maybe you can enlist that person to be basically her chaperone for the day--someone who keeps an eye on her and can distract her if she's starting to do her me, me, me routine. Sad to have to think about that for your own wedding but if you want her there, you might want to consider an unofficial mom-watcher.[/quote]

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