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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Well since I called bawling and he continued to discuss fishing in the background with his dad. I texted him and said "DD and I will be staying with my sister for a few days". He said "you're leaving me because I went fishing with my dad" someone please help me put to words why I'm so angry. I tried to explain that he doesn't put DD and I first.[/quote]

[b]"No, I'm leaving because you left me in the house with no car and no food." [/b] would be my response.   He needs counseling, with or without you. [/quote]

+1000 this.

I think the issue is that you are so pissed about other things with his family that this is the straw that broke the camel's back.  The issue is that with your car in the shop, he wasn't being considerate taking an all day trip with the only car.  He needed to either work with you to make sure you had everything you needed before taking the car for the day, have someone pick him up, change his fishing trip, have you bring him, uber to his dad's and have them drop him off etc...there were maybe 4 or 5 other acceptable options that would have been more considerate.

And I don't get while you are bawling other than tears of frustration over other stuff.. I would have woken up the baby from a nap and driven him (not great but better than being stuck with no transportation other than uber or taxi) rather than let him drive off with our only car for the day.  I mean, I get that it's a pain in the rump to wake a baby from a nap and then get them back to sleep but there are rare times when that happens, like what if I had to drive my DH to the airport and right that moment the baby fell asleep - I'm going to say oh well, you may miss your flight but you have to call a cab because the baby's is sleeping? Or I had to bring the baby for her pediatrician appt and she fell asleep, I pay a cancel fee and reschedule?  It's important to keep a schedule but you can't be so tied to it that it's death before ever changing the napping schedule/waking the baby.

Final piece of advice is don't play into the power struggle.  You are making it about the time he spends with his parents when it is really about his responsibility to you and his child so you are playing into the parents trap and you may getting push back from him because it seems like you are trying to dictate/control him.  You have to work WITH him on how to balance things, not dictate to him how he should handle it. [/quote]

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