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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op I'm being real when I say this: you need to ask her why she was let go or fired and tell her you're not mad about that and can help her find a new job. She did not quit. Women with kids are not impetuous like that. They would not pull something that would so significantly affect their kids' well being for their own benefit. I'm saying this as a mom who knows tons of moms: there's a calculus we all run when it comes to making a decision. It nearly always means asking ourselves "how can I do this thing with minimal pain and discomfort or irritation to my kids and husband while bearing the maximum amount of inconvenience myself."

Big to small, we do this. It's why we run errands while the baby is napping or go out for girls night when the kids are in bed, or cancel a girls night without complaint when husband's work event comes up. It's just how moms are wired/ we do stuff for ourselves but we figure out a way first to minimize the negative impact for everyone else in the family.

She was fired and embarrassed to tell you but I really don't think she just quit knowing  her job provides insurance and a much needed salary and is now unwilling to even discuss. Probe further. [/quote]

Wow.  You are damn naive.  So you don't know that some mothers are selfish?  Or abuse their children?[/quote]

Obviously I do. We are talking about op's family situation though which is [b]an intact nuclear family with parents who clearly care enough to do things like buy a walkable home in a good school district. THOSE moms don't do this stuff.[/b] Obviously if abuse were an issue he would have raised it from the jump. [/quote]

There are plenty of selfish or abusive mothers in walkable homes in good school districts. Don't be naive and classist. [/quote]
Seriously, what an obnoxious and absurd statement. Having the means to buy a home in a good school district has nothing to do with how good of a parent someone is. There are plenty of wonderful parents who struggle financially, and plenty of bad parents who are wealthy. Money is not the same as caring.[/quote]
How many moms do you know would quit a job willy nilly without caring that it provides insurance for their kids and kept their finances afloat? I don't know any like that. Most grown women with kidsdon't behave that way which is why I think she was fired. I'm not saying there aren't bad moms. I'm saying most moms will do whatever it takes to make sure their kids are cared for, even at their own expense, which is why this story as told doesn't add up. A good Mom (and op never suggested she wasnt or that she's abusive or neglectful in any other way) wouldn't just put her family in jeopardy like this. Even he was shocked because is not normal behavior for most women with responsibilities. My opinion. Take it or leave it.  [/quote]

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