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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Men seriously just don't get this because of course nobody randomly just grabs their body. But I have had to explain to my husband even if I usually like your attention, it is really just annoying and invasive to have you walk by and stick your hand down my pants when I'm doing dishes or something. It's like they have this bizarre notion our body is there whenever they get the urge to touch it without ever considering we don't just want to have our tits grabbed while we are sitting on the couch. Even the good normal dudes seem to really not understand that women deserve autonomy and that being groped for their pleasure is not that cool. [/quote]

Just speaking for myself,[b] I no longer have any idea how I can initiate sex in a way that my wife is comfortable with[/b]. I'm down to just asking directly -- which is fairly unsexy and usually results in a "no." On my way to this point, I've tried a lot of different things. Coming up behind her while she was doing something routine and kissing her neck has certainly been among the things I've tried. Climbing on her and trying to kiss her while she was sitting on the couch is another thing I've tried. When those things haven't provoked a positive response, I strike them off the list. When I've asked her how she might like me to initiate, she says she doesn't know. (Which I take to mean that she'd prefer I didn't initiate.)

I don't mean to deprive her of her autonomy or grope her for my pleasure, but she's not giving me a lot of cues about what would be welcome, and I'd prefer to avoid a sexless marriage if at all possible.

I don't know how that compares to other marriages where gropings have taken place. [/quote]

Back massage. Works wonders.[/quote]

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