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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here:  I have one of each.  If I had a third, I truly wouldn't care, although sisters would be nice, but we don't plan to have a third.  When I found out that I was pregnant with DD, everyone said "oh how perfect, your perfect pair" or "you're so lucky, you have one of each."

and FWIW, I am asking on a board of MOMS if they're disappointed to not have a girl.  I will admit that all the dads of only girls I know were equally disappointed not to have a son.  My friend's husband WEPT when he found out their third was a girl (they had 2 girls).  Sobbed like a baby.  He loves his kids immensely but does miss having a son[/quote]

It's so odd that you would be asking this when you have not experienced having only boys - what is your point? How do you know you would feel disappointed? I have not read through all the responses, but I will tell you my experience. I had my first, a son, which I admit was my preference for a first child. When I got pregnant with my second, I hoped it would be a girl. Not sure why - I guess just societal pressure of having the "ideal" one of each, and also it's the way I grew up - older brother and younger sister, so it seemed normal to me. However, there was really no burning desire for a daughter in terms of a mother-daughter relationship or bonding, etc. on a more personal level. Anyway, we had another boy. I was blown away by how much I loved being a mom to boys, how much I loved the brother dynamic, and how easy it all seemed (not saying it's easier, but I don't have a girl for comparison). We only ever planned on having two children. However,  few years later I got pregnant with an "oops" third. At that point, I actually, truly hoped for a third boy. I loved seeing my boys together, I loved being the only female in the house and my identity as a "boy mom," but never admitted this to anyone. For one thing, it's not very PC to admit you have a preference at all, and for another, I knew everyone would think like you and not believe me and just assume I would not "admit" I wanted a girl. So I quietly hoped for a boy, and did in fact end up with another boy. I love my family and my life, and I am very happy. Would I have been equally happy with all girls or a mix of both genders? Probably. I have no idea. But for me, there is nothing to "admit" because I don't feel that anything is missing in my life and I have no longing for a daughter. We are done having kids and I could not be more pleased with my family.[/quote]

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