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Anonymous wrote:I'm continually shocked by what assholes people are about baby boys. I had family members express overt disappointment that I was having a boy, the first time around, even though we were elated either way. Then when #2 was a boy, I can't believe how many people asked if I'd try for a third to have a girl, instead of saying congratulations. I think it's bizarre and a shame. (Very pleased with my sweet sweet boys.)

In the US, girls are preferred over boys. Having a girl is the #1 reason people choose sex selection during IVF.

The opposite is true for other countries.

Actually you are very wrong. Even adoption agencies have requests for boy babies 2:1 over girls. You are way off. And in most countries boys are also favored except for the really liberal countries like Denmark, Holland, Sweden,etc....

Anonymous wrote:i know this is so taboo on here, but why does everyone who only has boys pretend they're so content with this?

is this a joke? We have 2 boys and 2 girls and mostly I hear people saying they wish they had all boys..and I am not ashamed to say I am one of them! They are SO much easier than girls. Have you lived through a 13 year old girls life before? It almost killed me!

I have never really heard people saying they wish they had girls...I do hear it often about boys though and with good reason haha!

YESSSS to the clothes. Little boy clothes suck, and it gets worse as they get older and get into basically track pants and look like slobs.

Anonymous wrote:I have one boy and I am currently expecting another, and I am thrilled to be having two boys. I do get a lot of comments about whether we will "try for a girl," but I personally don't see what is so offensive about this. People are just making conversation most of the time, comments like this are rarely malicious.

Brothers are amazing. Mine are 5 and 3 and their relationship is the biggest joy of my life. Congrats!

My BFF says this without any fear. She LOVES her son. But she would have LOVED a girl too. NBD.

Anonymous wrote:I'm continually shocked by what assholes people are about baby boys. I had family members express overt disappointment that I was having a boy, the first time around, even though we were elated either way. Then when #2 was a boy, I can't believe how many people asked if I'd try for a third to have a girl, instead of saying congratulations. I think it's bizarre and a shame. (Very pleased with my sweet sweet boys.)

In the US, girls are preferred over boys. Having a girl is the #1 reason people choose sex selection during IVF.

The opposite is true for other countries.

I cried when I found out DS 1 was a boy at 20 weeks. I thought I wanted a girl so badly but am now so happy with my 2 yr old boy and thrilled to be expecting another boy in May. I have gotten a lot of "oh no, guess you'll have a third?" From strangers but nope, we are done with 2 boys. I'm jealous of little girls clothing section but will just spoil my friends with girl babies.

I have two girls. I thought I wanted a girl before I had my first DD. Now, I understand that I would have been thrilled to have any combination of boys and/or girls in my little family. BUT, I would never have a third kid. I don't know how you people do it.

I have one boy and I am currently expecting another, and I am thrilled to be having two boys. I do get a lot of comments about whether we will "try for a girl," but I personally don't see what is so offensive about this. People are just making conversation most of the time, comments like this are rarely malicious.

Anonymous wrote:OP here: I have one of each. If I had a third, I truly wouldn't care, although sisters would be nice, but we don't plan to have a third. When I found out that I was pregnant with DD, everyone said "oh how perfect, your perfect pair" or "you're so lucky, you have one of each."

and FWIW, I am asking on a board of MOMS if they're disappointed to not have a girl. I will admit that all the dads of only girls I know were equally disappointed not to have a son. My friend's husband WEPT when he found out their third was a girl (they had 2 girls). Sobbed like a baby. He loves his kids immensely but does miss having a son

It's so odd that you would be asking this when you have not experienced having only boys - what is your point? How do you know you would feel disappointed? I have not read through all the responses, but I will tell you my experience. I had my first, a son, which I admit was my preference for a first child. When I got pregnant with my second, I hoped it would be a girl. Not sure why - I guess just societal pressure of having the "ideal" one of each, and also it's the way I grew up - older brother and younger sister, so it seemed normal to me. However, there was really no burning desire for a daughter in terms of a mother-daughter relationship or bonding, etc. on a more personal level. Anyway, we had another boy. I was blown away by how much I loved being a mom to boys, how much I loved the brother dynamic, and how easy it all seemed (not saying it's easier, but I don't have a girl for comparison). We only ever planned on having two children. However, few years later I got pregnant with an "oops" third. At that point, I actually, truly hoped for a third boy. I loved seeing my boys together, I loved being the only female in the house and my identity as a "boy mom," but never admitted this to anyone. For one thing, it's not very PC to admit you have a preference at all, and for another, I knew everyone would think like you and not believe me and just assume I would not "admit" I wanted a girl. So I quietly hoped for a boy, and did in fact end up with another boy. I love my family and my life, and I am very happy. Would I have been equally happy with all girls or a mix of both genders? Probably. I have no idea. But for me, there is nothing to "admit" because I don't feel that anything is missing in my life and I have no longing for a daughter. We are done having kids and I could not be more pleased with my family.

OP here: I have one of each. If I had a third, I truly wouldn't care, although sisters would be nice, but we don't plan to have a third. When I found out that I was pregnant with DD, everyone said "oh how perfect, your perfect pair" or "you're so lucky, you have one of each."

and FWIW, I am asking on a board of MOMS if they're disappointed to not have a girl. I will admit that all the dads of only girls I know were equally disappointed not to have a son. My friend's husband WEPT when he found out their third was a girl (they had 2 girls). Sobbed like a baby. He loves his kids immensely but does miss having a son

I have two girls. I wish I had two girls and a boy.

Anonymous wrote:I'm continually shocked by what assholes people are about baby boys. I had family members express overt disappointment that I was having a boy, the first time around, even though we were elated either way. Then when #2 was a boy, I can't believe how many people asked if I'd try for a third to have a girl, instead of saying congratulations. I think it's bizarre and a shame. (Very pleased with my sweet sweet boys.)

Agree with this. I absolutely love having a boy.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm continually shocked by what assholes people are about baby boys. I had family members express overt disappointment that I was having a boy, the first time around, even though we were elated either way. Then when #2 was a boy, I can't believe how many people asked if I'd try for a third to have a girl, instead of saying congratulations. I think it's bizarre and a shame. (Very pleased with my sweet sweet boys.)

I had the same experience in reverse in having two girls, and got a fair amount of "boys are better, how unfortunate you're having girls" projection on to me. People were very disappointed for me and my husband that we were having a second girl, and I was also told I had to have to have a third baby to "give [my] husband a son." Either way I think it's gross.

That's unusual. People always give you a sad face when you say you're having another boy.

I got a lot of "oh, you must be so happy to finally having a boy. I bet your husband is so happy." I only had one girl, so it's not like I had many girls and was finally getting my boy.

People congratulated me when they found out that I was expecting my second boy. In fact, the typical reaction was something along the lines of "Two boys? How adorable! Your boys are going to have so much fun together! Congratulations!"

They would have said the same thing if my second had been a girl.