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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]SAHMS period.[/quote]

I disagree. I SAH when my kids were little. The reason was, I only made 50K/yr and it made no sense for me to work to pay for daycare.  We struggled those years, it sucked! [/quote]

I am in the same boat, but I worked anyway.  To keep my foot in the door, to remain in the professional world, to show my DD it was important.  It was your choice to struggle.  [/quote]

I'm sure your daughter was thrilled that her life was made a run-around because of your misplaced feelings about what' s important.

The PP made the right decision and her kids and husband benefitted by having her home, rather than creating extra stress on everyone to work, only to have that salary go to daycare. There would be no net gain on a financial level for her to work, so alleviating the run-around stress at home made more sense. It's hard work, and it sucks sometimes like anything else, but it's important work in my eyes.[/quote]

Former SAH 50K mom here.  Really, I do not judge anyone for working EVERYBODY makes decisions that work for them and everyone has a different tolerance level for stress. I see where many women might need to stay in the workforce at a low income just to keep their place, taking a look at the long haul. That was not my case,  I slid back in quite easily and ended up in an better position than when I left. It was a complete win for me, and really how hard is it to pick up another 50K/yr job, it's not like I was walking away from six figures! I got to muscle through the infant/toddler phase without the added stress of a career and took no hit when I returned (at a 65K salary to boot, which rapidly accelerated).

However, it is quite disingenuous to say "show my DD it was important" to work.  I can assure you, a 2yr old does not think about these things. My children probably will not even remember me SAH and that's OK. It was nice for ME to have that time with them and it was great for my DH to have those years that he could focus on his career without the pressure of needing to be at home by a certain time or run around in the morning with the daycare routine.  He got an career boost in that period of time. Overall I would do it again a thousand times over.[/quote]

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