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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Before you call the other husband please really dig deep within an[b]d find out what your motivation is. [/b]Be honest. Is there any part of you that is saying "f you" to the other woman? Is this about vengeance or out of concern for the other DH? "He has a right to know" isn't satisfactory. He obviously knows about the affair. Your marriage is none of his business and vice versa. Telling him may only cause more drama and if that woman and your DH get together permanently, she will be caring for your children. Think about it. 
As for the kids, the PP had great advice. Be specific about how their lives will change. Make sure you have made as many of those decisions as possible before you talk to them. [/quote]

oh really, who cares. That lady deserves to have her family life blown to smithereens. I hope her husband kicks her out and her kids stop speaking to her for years.[/quote]

I'm not the PP you quoted, but your response is ignoring the fact that the AP's husband might not want to hear this information.  He might be in a place where he is working to move past what happened.  He might be making progress on getting to where he needs to be, including with putting his relationship back together for him and his kids.  I don't think you should meddle in what's going on with another marriage, even if what the AP did affected your marriage.[/quote]

You give him the information. What he does with it is his choice.[/quote]

Maybe he doesn't want the information.  You don't know what he wants, so why meddle in someone else's marriage?  Besides, the only information she has is how her husband felt about the AP.  That is only going to hurt to hear, and it is irrelevant to what that guy is dealing with.  I suspect though that OP wants to tell to get back at the AP.  Understandable, but a terrible reason for doing it.[/quote]

OP gained the right to "meddle"in the AP's marriage when AP started living this so called "pure" love with her husband. [/quote]

I can't tell if you're dense or being a troll, but in case you're being serious: the point here is that this is potentially going to hurt the other victim here (the AP's husband).  She didn't "gain the right" to mess with his life.  She should focus on her own issues and leave him to deal with his.  All she knows is how her husband feels about the affair, and that is not relevant to AP's husband.[/quote]

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