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[quote=Anonymous]He's angry when you tell others because he wants to protect his image in the community.  You absolutely have every right to tell your friends and family so that they can give you support during this dreadful time.  If he wants to protect his image, he must do so by NOT DOING SHITTY THINGS!!!

He threatens divorce because he trusts that you would never wish to have the marriage end.  So he is quite obviously trying to manipulate you into letting him off the hook as well as encouraging you to try harder to please him.  Which is quite hilarious, because he is the one who should be trying harder here.

I don't think it should be up to him whether you decide to stay married to a cheater. It is YOUR decision.  During your therapy session, have your therapist explore what your boundaries are ... what behaviors are you willing to accept and not accept.  You are married to a man who lies and cheats on you and his kids.  He thinks that if he threatens to leave, you will cower and beg him not to go.  Is that acceptable to you?  I hope you say to yourself HELL NO.

Ask him to move out.  Call his bluff.  Give both of you space to decide what you really want.  Prediction:  he will want to come back and you will not want him to do so because you gave yourself enough space and time to understand that you deserve love and respect.  Yes, divorce is sad and difficult.  But remaining married to someone who thinks so little of you is much, much worse.  I'll say it again ... know your worth.  [/quote]

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