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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm the previous PP (previous to the "snowflake" comment--which I'd never make).

Sorry, but I don't outsource my judgement or my kids' judgement to some school handbook.

Our parties are very fun and extremely open, yet we allow our kids to make their own mistakes and to learn from them. Life is a 100-year marathon. Unless truly necessary, I don't impose my views (much less some random handbook) on other people.[/quote]

Well, your moral and ethical compass are somewhat skewed.  Most Beauvoir parents comply with the provisions in the handbook.  Not because they've "outsourced judgment," but because they agree that tolerance and inclusion are more important than the birthday child getting their way.

What relevance is the idea that a party is "fun and extremely open" if kids are included and you allow them to "make their own mistakes"?  If you're applying this to elementary school kids, you're actually sanctioning hurtful behavior.

I might make an exception for a child who is physically aggressive (after age 6 or so) or who is a bully -- [b]and I would make it clear to my child's teachers and the parents of the child why they were not invited --[/b] but otherwise I don't think there's an excuse for excluding an 8-year old child in order to let your child "make their own mistakes," or, put another way, be a hurtful jerk.

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NP. Really? You would do this? You would make a point to tell Larla's mother or teacher that she not being invited to a party because she is a bully? You would go out of your way to make that clear to them?

Sorry, I don't know of anyone who would have the nerve to do this IRL.[/quote]

So you don't know me.

I have done this, although not at Beauvoir.  We were at a school that was quite weak in its response to bullying. I had no qualms about not inviting the bully -- and telling the parents and the teachers, who were all aware of the issue -- why the child was not being invited.

That school also had an inclusive birthday policy, and I was making it clear why I was not following it. Teachers understood.  Parent got defensive and angry, but so what.

I actually felt sorry for the bully, because it was obvious why the child was screwed up. The parents seemed to have only two modes:  disengaged or spanking. I have three kids in private school, and they were the only parents I've ever encountered who not only spanked and slapped their children, but did so in public.

DC had a happy, bully-free birthday.  We left the school at the end of the year.  I wish I'd pulled DC out earlier.

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