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I wouldn't cancel a date, but I would think twice about marriage - my mother had a chronic disease, and it majorly affected my childhood.
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+1  I am the child of a handicapped (oh, forgot, the new word is disabled) person and I can tell you that severe physical disabilities have broad impacts on a lot of stuff.  Partly that's because we live in a world built for the "abled" and partly it's because disabilities can have add-on effects.  Doesn't matter why or "right" or "wrong"...but go in with your eyes very very wide open.

I think he obviously felt the need to disclose because his profile hid this fact.  I put this in the same category as using a 10 year old picture showing the person 100lbs lighter...or with hair...or, whatever.  It's misleading and a bait and switch.  I don't think you need to feel the slightest bit guilty or bad about cancelling if you want to.  Nobody else - "abled" - gets a free pass for being somewhat deceptive.  In fact, the issue of "special consideration" is the single thing about the disabled I'd most caution you to keep your eyes wide open about.

All that said, I'd go out on a date with him (her in my case) at least once.  I can tell you that as the child of a not-quite-wheelchair-bound (yet) parent, this was an immediate dealbreaker for me always.  [/quote]

Honest request for dialogue here -- in what ways were you impacted by having a mother with a disability?  What could or should she have done differently?  How did your other parent's behavior factor into things?  When did your mom become disabled?  What are some of your childhood memories?  No judgment. Real questions. [/quote]

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