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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]LOL yeah right.

Women in their 30s with their shit together get snapped up all the time by good and decent men.[/quote]

There aren't too many women in their 30's with their shit together and even at least averagely attractive who haven't already been snapped up by a good and decent man.  Maybe they are widows or something, or they got divorced because their husband cheated--but they'll get snapped up so quickly they'll never write on the internet about their concerns about not being datable.

That's what your comment totally misses the boat on.

The women who find themselves into their 30's, single, not knowing why, feeling undatable, and feeling scared about it--scared enough about it to seek reassurance that age doesn't matter from their internet friends--are a self-selected group.   OP is one of those women.  She already feels undatable, and it's not because two of her friends made a comment about her age.  It's because her first hand feedback from the dating market tells her, in a very direct way, that she is simply not generating the kind of interest she did five or ten years ago.[/quote]

Well, it wasn't like that for me or any of my friends who met their partners in their 30s. It gave everyone time to get through law school, finish their PhD, conquer those demons of their 20s, etc. But I will agree that women in their 30s who believe their "value" has depreciated are unlikely to find good partners.

For some excellent reading on how that type of outlook leads an otherwise wildly successful woman to consistently choose unsuitable partners and reject perfectly decent ones, google the blogspot blog The Fourth Date (Sexless in Seattle, Looking for love, will settle for a good time). If you're contending with the same personal challenges of that author, you need a therapist to help you work out what you are doing and why. I didn't settle down in my 20s on purpose - the sudden death of my long-term boyfriend at 23 meant I needed (admittedly a lot of) time before I could bring my fair share to a relationship - but if you want to and keep sabotaging yourself you'll need an outside perspective to help you work on yourself.[/quote]

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