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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]"Yes, assuming no abuse/addiction, I judge. I'll admit it. If I know it was against the wishes of one spouse, I only judge the leaving spouse. We have a dear friend with 3 kids and his wife just decided she didn't feel like being married anymore. He was so blindsided and heartbroken. High earning, super involved/helpful dad. Who does that??!?

Did she tell you this was the reason or did you just get his version of events? No one can ever know what goes on in someone else's house. That superinvolved husband may be putting on a show."

Yep. How are you so sure there was no abuse or addiction? About 6 people in the world knew what was going on in my marriage. Most think my ex was a nice guy, if a bit of a slacker.[/quote]

He is my husband's very close friend. He is not an addict or an abuser. He got a big (almost 7 figure) payout from his previous company that sold and as soon as it hit their account, she ask for a divorce out of the clear blue sky. Her children were 5, 2, and 2 at the time. She did not ask for counseling. She did not suggest a trial separation. She could not even articulate to him what he "did wrong." She just said she didn't want to be married anymore. [/quote]

You still only have one side of the story. Maybe she had been telling him what the problems were for years and he didn't listen or hear her. So when she got ready to leave she wasn't rehashing it. She had told him over and over and over again with no change. Sounds like HE thinks he's a catch and he assumed that was enough.

Even if all that's true (which I doubt) that's not reason enough to break up your children's home.

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You don't know what the problems were so how can you make the judgment? Mind your own marriage before you find yourself in the wrong side of this equation. [/quote]

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