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[quote=Shineshelly]Hi there, I can definitely see how living with someone with such high expectations for those around them, can be frustrating and defeating. From what you've said, it sounds like you do more than enough in being a fruitful and productive mother and wife!

I think many of us have leanings toward being a perfectionist in certain areas. It is always a good thing to identify these areas and figure out the root cause. For myself, certain perfectionist tendencies have stemmed from insecurity. Consider going a little deeper with him to find out what is driving his thinking? Fear of failure? Of loss or embarrassment? Reputation? Pride? I think it is very perceptive of you to see that he was raised in a similar manner. I wonder if you asked him how being a child under hard-charging parent(s) made him feel growing up would go? Maybe appealing to him to understand how his 'soft-demands' make you feel weary and sub-par would yield a productive conversation. Hopefully once he understands how demeaning he comes across, he will reevaluate his approach.

I encourage you to continue in counseling to maintain a balanced outlook on all of this. Hang in there. Praying for you and your family! [/quote]

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